Yup, I really believe that. Trust is more important. When it comes to regrets and reflection, I'm really bad for that. I analyze everything. And most, if not all, of my relationships came down to either trust issues or negative association with the term "I love you." My first serious relationship, I said "love ya" on our first date when she was leaving and she overreacted. The next one, I was afraid of "I love you" and the girl gave up on me because it had been 7 months and I hadn't said it.
The next three girls had trust issues with me. They didn't trust me, or I was a jealous boyfriend, etc. It sucked. When the last girl said she didn't trust me, I lost all sexual appeal for her. So I stopped putting out. She begged me. I said, "Okay, then stop wearing a bra when we have sex" and she took it as immaturity. And I left her.
Loving is a nice feeling, but trust opens far more doors. It allows adventure, and shows parts of the personality that maybe you didn't know you had. I have a very strong security blanket. Lots of people love me. If you don't trust me, what good is love? You're not ready to accept the next step to begin with.
I know some are ready to harp on me with "you have to earn trust", and that's valid. But I can't comprend how somebody can love without trusting.
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